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Should I Give Up?

I've read every story posted just to see if there is a story similar to mines just battleing myself if i should let all this out or not; but i c not every story is the same.
I've been married for almost 2 years, my husband is 20 years older than me and we dated for so little time and certain circumstances made us get married. At this point i thank God for not giving us children even when i questioned him at the begining why havent i gotten pregnant.
At this time in my life when i am about to be 22 years old, ive lived things that had made made me realize how much i need to love myself; my husband spends more time with his friend than me, they go to the park together, they eat out, sunset walks, hours of talking, laughs, games which none of those seems to be fun while doing it with me (his wife), this has my head upside down thinking so many things that i really dont want to think, can they be in a homosexual relationship, is there any love, my husband drinks so much, and i am getting tired of the forgive me, i am sorry stories, we have been thruough several marriage therapy sessions and of course he says he will change and changes for a day or two and then ends up being the same, why is quiting a marriage so hard to decide, should i walk away, should i stay and be with a man thats drunk 300 of 365 days a year and be by yelling and uncertainties.

Posted on Friday, May 8, 2009 by ivemissed.com

2 comments (Add your own)

1. wrote:
i cant say i understand most of it,but i have been a drunk and alcohol is first thing that should be given up,not u,a decision has 2b made obviosly,i know, i dont think that taking away alcohol will make all the difference in the world for starters,but it has 2b completely eradicated for you two to get to know(yourselves) and love eachother again,that liquid really distances people from themselves and the people they love when it becomes a constant,i still love the bottle but if its a priorityin my life it becomes a fake intoxicated version of happy,i think if there is no respect or compromise in this than we must pray about the hard decision you will both have to make......

May 12, 2009 @ 12:42 PM

2. Keisha wrote:
I have been there and done that. The unfortunate truth of being with a drunk is they need to get help before they realize that they are doing wrong. He will need to hit rock bottom before he can see the wrong. You will continue to second guess yourself and you will continue to ask should I, you already know the answer! You have one life to live and you live that life first and foremost for God and with God. Go to church, pray, listen, love God and he will help. Trust me, God will give you the outcome you need! He needs professional help! The reason he doesn't want to hang out with you is because you aren't the FUN one, you won't put up with the drunkenness or the ridiculous degrading behavior. You are his voice of reason and when a drunk is determined to get drunk they don’t want a voice of reason there. You are young and have a life full of chances and decisions that you are missing. I know that we should stand by the one we love but sometimes you are standing alone!!! I know how hard it is but you should sit down one day and write a pros and cons list and it the cons out weigh the pros then you have to make the decision that your mid has already but now tell that to your heart. He is your first but won’t be your last. Don’t ever let a man think he can control you!

There are two types of men in this world, the ones that will do everything for you to make you happy and the ones that don’t, you know which one you are with!

God Bless and May God help you in your path!

May 12, 2009 @ 2:08 PM

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